Episode 4: Friendship Breakups Hurt More Than Real Ones Sometimes

When Friendship Breakups Hurt More Than Romantic Ones

In today's episode, the hosts dive into the complexities of friendship breakups and how they can sometimes feel more painful than romantic breakups. The discussion includes personal anecdotes, lessons learned from past friendships, and the impact of honesty within relationships. They also touch on the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries and the role social media plays in friendships. The conversation is filled with humor, candid confessions, and a look at how different friendships have shaped their lives.

00:00 Introduction: Friendship Breakups Hurt More

00:10 Personal Experiences with Friendship Breakups

01:43 Honesty in Friendships

04:35 Family Dynamics and Ghosting

07:16 Balancing Friendships and Family

09:22 Humor and Coping Mechanisms

10:53 Deep Friendships and Their Impact

11:51 The Worst Friend Ever

12:19 Tolerating Friendships

12:50 Honesty and Humor in Friendships

15:44 Blocking on Social Media

16:36 Respecting Boundaries

17:31 Petty Arguments and Reconciliation

20:17 Upcoming Live Event

21:29 Conclusion and Farewell

Transcript

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Today's episode is Friendship Breakups Hurt More Than Real Ones Sometimes, for sure. It depends on who it is. Yeah, in my opinion. Yeah. I mean, like if me and Scott broke up, that would hurt way worse than any of them bitches. I don't talk to no more. There's a couple of them. Well, for sure, but I, I mean, I must be perfect because fuck me. God, we could all walk in a perfect life of Cindy. I, I, Mark says Cindy will tell you when you're in pain. When you're not in pain, she'll tell you. I just feel like, um, you're perfect. Well, I wouldn't say I'm perfect, but I really haven't lost any friendships. I outgrown one and then cut off the other, but. I know what happened with the rest. They tolerate your ass. Yes. They just don't want to tell you. Yes. They smile and wave. Smile and wave. Right. That's what I think. Well, fuck'em. Deal with me. They gone. Yeah, I True. I think, I think, yeah. I think I'm fine. I have, I have no input on this. Can you see the camera's shaking? Sorry. Okay. That's'cause she found it so funny. Well, that's if you are watching and if you're listening, you could hear the pounding from this bitch. Yeah. Well, like I said, in other episodes, in our whole adult life, you don't piss off a nice one. I'm many people you fake like you're the nice one. That's true. That is true. Oh, I piss off a lot of people. But do they not? Do they just hold it in? Or, or it don't really piss'em out. I don't know. I have a lot of, a lot when I, I'm gonna be honest with you, I stayed up all night thinking about this shit, like, I mean, not all night. That's a little dramatic, but I, I mean, I was woke up in the middle of the night thinking what friendships really have I lost or relationships have I lost because I was too honest? I have lost a few. Yeah, I know I've won. I know I won for sure. That bitch got your ass. Listen, I'm gonna be honest and truthful to all my friends and if the friend at that time is doing shit that she shouldn't be doing and lying, then I'm gonna be honest and I'm gonna tell the other friend that that's just'cause I don't like, I call bullshit. Bullshit. Bullshit. Bullshit. Ahh bullshit. You know what I mean? So I'm glad you life. You're glad I told that friend that. Mm-hmm. You know, that that happened to her, that she was lied to. Yeah. Right. Well, yeah. Yeah.'cause that's how you should be. Like if you, it's weird. That's awkward to me. Yeah. Well what's more awkward is when they continue, the person who's in the wrong continuously blames you for being honest about it. Oh, probably to this day, just don't know.'cause you ran them off. I'm sure. Ghosted. I did Ghost somebody. See, I really truly did. You're so mean, bitch. Yeah. I don't care though. I mean, this is the thing for me, I think that. There's a certain degree, like I said in the last episode, when honesty is either malicious mm-hmm. Or a true intention to protect somebody. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like if I'm being honest with you about a situation, and I'm telling you this. To help you to, to guard you or to, you know what I mean? Yeah. No, I'm not doing it to tell you to hurt you and watch you cry. No, you do it to me every day. Your daughter pointed out that you're mean to me. It's fine. You wanna be honest? You want me to be honest. This is why we're here'cause of this bitch. Well, that's always saying, do you want me to be honest when I ask a question?'cause I'm petty as hell, right? And I want, help me not, not freak out, help you. And you're like, well, you wanna be honest. Okay, but do you want me to be honest or do you want me just to listen? Yes, I do. No, I do. I really do. Okay. I can't listen, I'm, I mean, y'all probably figured out I talk overtop of Cindy nonstop. Hello. I don't appreciate them eyes, but I am honest to a certain degree. Have you ever had anybody like ghost you like Yeah. Okay. You did say your friend, your family. You've had a family member ghost you? Well, I mean ghost it, but did they ghost it because answers when they have to. Yeah. Okay. Well, I think that's just family relationships in general. Okay. But are they ghosting you because of your big mouth? Type thing. Nope. Friendships. Some are hard, some aren't. Just like relationships with your husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever it is. Yeah. It's hard for you and I think to compare, because we've been together with our, our husband. Mm-hmm. Husbands.'cause we're not the Mormons Housewives. We don't No, no. This ain't mom Tok. No. Okay. Yes. Bitch, let me just tell you something. This ain't no. How do you say F truffle? No fro ffel. No flaw. That's food, ain't it? No, it's uh, th truffle throuple. Throuple throuple. This ain't no throuple. Well, it would be a quadruple. Quadruple because there's four of'us. Oh, yeah. Like, no, no bitch. No. That's one thing I wouldn't tolerate. You ain't my friend and fucking my man eeks and let me find out. No bitch. No bitch. You couldn't be friends. Can't be friends. You can't be on this planet. You better move. Yeah. to Mars. Yeah. I try to think that Mark hasn't been with anybody but me. I know. I love that in you. That's why for me, our friendship has survived because you and I would never cross those lines. You're a whore if you do, not you, but whoever I'm, you are a whore if you do but. She called me a whore. Bitch, you're dead if you do. Pretty much. Yeah. No, I mean, it ain't our friendship. It never was. No, I agree. I've also had a friend that I knew was an ex of my husband's roll up and try to hook up with my husband. When he wasn't your husband, but y'all were together. We were. I mean, we were engaged. Yeah. yeeks you stupid bitch. I don't know if y'all can tell by just listening, you getting heated? Yeah, you fucking with the wrong bitches, man. So I could see that's why someone would end a friendship for sure. I don't have any friendship that I mourn right at all. No. Now, but again, I, you know, what about family members? Yeah, I have like 32 niece and nephews, like I can't keep up with all of them. Yeah, don't that. Thank you Jesus and all sisters and brothers, so much, um, that are left here on earth. I can't, it it's, it'd be an all day job. So to me, all my niece and nephews only got a few aunts and uncles. They reach out, reach and sometimes I reach out to them, but I try to stay in contact. That's why I like Facebook. Yeah. So I can see how they're doing and blah, blah, blah. And I talk to'em or whatever, but. It's a lot. It's a lot. Especially when I have a daughter that is, you know, is constantly in need. I didn't say that of your attention. Okay. I don't think she is no more than your son is. Who? Who are you talking about? I'm saving you, Brina. No, she is high up there compared to my son with the need. I mean, she's a girl. What age? She's gonna ghost you now. That's what, that's what's gonna happen. Well, it's funny, you can ghost me. You live in my house. Okay. But she can shut the door. She does all the time, and I walk right in. But that's again, relationships that you might have opened your mouth a little too much. Oh, I definitely have with her. I have with her for sure. She just keeps putting up with that shit from you. No. I, I, I'm better. I'm way better now. There was just a couple years that, Well, I'm strong. I have no problems, dude. I am flying through the world. I keep moving and moving. Ignoring, ignoring, ignore and ignoring you. Stop. It's done. Block it out. Yep. I think that's why sometimes I can't. Function. Like my brain shuts down for a minute. It's like, like a computer kind of goes in standby mode, but you're always so busy or buffering. You like to be so busy. I'm lazy, dude. I have to, if my brain shut down, I, I have to commit my ass. Dude. I, I don't even know what would happen if I wasn't busy. I, I don't get it. I like to watch tv, watch my Housewives watch Ninety Day Fiance I mean I do that? I do that at like. Throughout. I'm multitask. I'm a multitasker. Yeah, but you know why? Because you can listen to stuff and work. Mm-hmm. See? Not me. I need full attention on my shows. Mark walks in or somebody walks in, I pause it. What? What do you want? Right? He golly, you're so rude. Well, he'll try to talk through my shows and I'll pause it. He's like, why do you always pause it? How am I supposed to pay attention to what each of their words are? If you're talking like, I ain't got time for that. I'm about to ghost his ass. You should. I'm gonna ghost him. You should Today. Absolutely. Today. I'm gonna go some right after dinner. Oh yeah. Yeah. You gotta wait till he takes you out. Yeah. And then I'm gonna go in my room and shut the door. Have a couple drinks at dinner tonight and be like, I gotta go lay down. Yeah, I got, that's how I get outta everything with Scott. You gotta go lay down. Well, I drink one and act like I'm a lightweight and drunk. Yeah, I got a headache. I don't feel good. He is like, I'm learning stuff every day. Here we go. I'd you say, leave me alone. I'm tired. I'm old. See I'm tired. It's over. You're honest. Yes. When it comes to that. Yes. I try to protect my husband too.'cause I told you you're a bullshitter. You bullshit. A bullshitter be right. Bullshit. You can bullshit a bullshit. That drink is strong. Scott gave me. We're not drinking again. I can't imagine the only. I don't wanna say they only because I have good friendships, right? I think for you and Ariane. Oh, we're naming names. Oh, I don't know. We're about to learn today. Ariane saying you on the podcast today, two friendships, if you better include Kim. Well, because she's first of all. I'm gonna look away. I hope she's, I hope this is on YouTube. I hope this is on. This one is on YouTube and y'all can see the reactions. Don't get me laughing, dude. Why I drank too much. I'm just saying the deepness of our friendships. I know. I was just joking. Are, um, them would be the one only. That would be, that would hurt. Devastating. Yeah. I mean, I, like I said, I have other friendships that would be hurt. Yeah. But yours and Ariane's would be the, the worst. You would be number one. Worst. She would be bad. You're the worst. You understand? I, I understand. I know it because I'm gonna tell you this, if the reaction wasn't what I expected, I would make sure. It was the worst. Yeah. Your Yours is the worst. See, you're petty. I am again. I'm a bitch. Yeah, we know. But I tolerate your ass. That's why. Wow. That's what we talked about before. Why our friendship has stayed so strong. Because you tolerated me all these years. Tolerate. Isn't that what we said earlier in the other episode? No, but you're now, you're being honest. Keep drinking. See what the fuck you get. No, I'm just kidding. I was just kidding. That's not my honest opinion. Back it up. Um, no, you know why is because you make me laugh so hard. I think because that's what bonds, I think that's how I keep friendships. It should be because they're like, she's a bitch. But she funny I have other friendships that would be bad. So. I I I'm never losing you guys. Where the fuck y'all going? Nowhere. That's what I'm saying. I feel like we're your only two friends. You know what it is though. It's like, wow, bitch, I just got that. I know. That was so good. Um, and I, just so you know, your sister is one of my besties too, so calm your little self down. Okay. But I'm gonna be honest with you, if I pull out, she's pulling out, wow. That's how we ride in this family, bro. Kim, she ain't gonna leave me like that. She will you Paul Scott. Me and Paul Scott would be hanging out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You three, you'd be like, where'd April and Kim go? I know. Wow. Did I get ghosted by both? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. That's how we work. Kim. I'm sorry buddy. Well, that just hurt my feelings. It doesn't hurt mine. We're done. This is crazy. Gabby, help me. We're going Gabby, and she's saying she's, you deal with me, bitch. I deal with you. No, I said I tolerated you. Oh, I tolerated. Yeah, yeah. No, I miss spoke. Lemme rephrase all of this. Okay. Because this bitch, she gone. She gone. Okay. No. Okay, let's backtrack. Okay. Honestly, here we go. Yeah, you wouldn't have Kim no more. Honest truth. I was trying to be, you see how I was trying to be sincere? Saying I was. Oh, how devastating me. Yeah, but no, fuck up. No, I drop you like a bad fucking habit. I'm just kidding. I'm still pulling up in here and working. That's every day. I know. I'm like, uh, you on the clock? Okay. You can come in the dogs like me now. Well,'cause I need you. Wow. That's, that's why you. Wow. Okay. That sounds a little, shit's getting real in here. I thought you said earlier I was the nice one. You're not the nice one. I fake like I am. You're, yes. Okay. So you see, I'm, I'm listen to your own podcast. I'm, I'm a, on the surface, like I'm blunt and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. You hold it in and then bam, bam. Oh yeah. Shots fired. Shots fired. Yes. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I agree. Let's skip friendships'cause this friendship's fucking over. What was the topic of this conversation? Awkward moments, friendships that hurt blocking that bitch. Right now that's not funny. I'd be checking my Facebook. Mm-hmm. I Have you ever blocked anybody on Facebook? Yeah, one person. You have? One person. But then I unblocked them later. Really? I warned them. Yeah. I'm gonna block you if you keep posting this stuff. Right, right. Because you're on social media and you're saying stuff. I'm married. Yeah. Been with my husband years. Nobody wants to talk about who you've been with and what it was like and dah, dah, dah. And my sister and her con kept commenting on the same, um, the same post. Right. And they kept commenting on it, talking about something in the past, and I kept saying, Hey, hey guys. Hey guys. Hey guys. And then finally I sent them a message, said, I'm gonna block you if you keep doing that.'cause I mean, their future, their wives was on there. Yeah. Yeah. Because your husband's not on there. Who, he's not gonna to see it, but Yeah. But I still don't wanna talk about that stuff's respect. Respect, yeah. I'm not disrespecting my husband. Like even though I curse him out every day, that's still that there's things I'm not, I don't wanna talk about that. Yeah. And they keep throwing it out there. Throwing it out there. So I warned her. She thought it was funny, so I blocked her, but I didn't block my sister. Well, I should. She's lucky. I mean, you should, but she stopped talking'cause she knew how serious it was. Right. And then eventually the wife said, sorry, we can't be friends no more within a month. So she saw it all. Yeah. Like I knew she would. So I guess I did get. Got you. So I guess I did. See, it takes a minute for you to realize. And it wasn't my fault though. No. Like nobody's talking about that. Stop talking about it. Yeah. Oh, remember when? Cindy? Remember, right. Like, right. Right. Why are you doing that when you're on social media like that? That's why I say there's certain things that can withstand. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like you and I can banter about shit and we can talk, but we would never cut deep. No, except for a few minutes ago. But it's fine. I'm not, she's not harboring any feelings. I'm petty. Just remember the pettiness. I'm gonna pay for this lady. Sure is. It's okay. Gabby's watching. She'll help me out. I'm gonna have to hear from her again. Why are you so mean? Yep. So anyway. Yeah. That, that did happen to me. I just remembered that. Yeah. See, but it wasn't my, uh, my fault. Hm. It wasn't, I'm just kidding. I kept saying, stop guys. Stop guys. Right. Hey, what else can I do? Yeah. Shit. I think you should have removed the post. Blocked them both. It wasn't my post. They tagged me in the post. It was the other. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And kept talking about it, so. Right. It wasn't my post. I would, I even said, you know, his girlfriend or wife or whatever's on. Right. All of our Facebooks, why are you doing that? Right. And they thought it was funny. Well, that's disrespectful dude. I wish a bitch would talk shit about Scott on Oh my God. Say something stupid, dude. I would be so mad. This is the difference though. See, I'm not gonna get you on Facebook.'cause that's petty to me. That's, that's like baby back bitch games. I don't play that game. You gonna text him? I'm gonna show up at your door. What they ain't in your state. I'm flying to upstate. I'll go with you. Here's the thing, the luxury of being me, being from outta state is that ain't none of my exes around this town. Yeah, that's true. But all his so sorry ladies, say some stupid shit. Got I show up on your doorstep. I, I don't got a lot of exits, so I don't care. I mean, Scott, uh, Scott's got a lot, but. They in the past, he ain't even thinking about that bitch Mark. has none that. He's never been with anyone, ever, ever immaculate conception. Yep. He didn't have no kids before me. That was God's dorm.'cause God knew I could not deal with that. Mm-hmm. Mm mm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. That's another conversation. It's for another episode. Yep. But anyway, so, so friendships, this is over. Um, stay tuned for the next episode. I'll be at my own house. We'll be zooming from different locations. Yeah. And probably have our own podcast. I gotta be better friends with Kim, is what I heard. Well, yeah, yeah. Pretty much. You might wanna figure that situation out. I need to, you threw me under the bus like 16 times again. Sorry. Um, yeah. Well, I mean, it is what it is., We're gonna try doing some different little, games like we did on, or questions, whatever, a drinking game. We are gonna do a live event. Oh. I'm not good live, just talk. She just found out. We are, I'm, I'm planning a live event on TikTok. Probably in, I would say a couple weeks, right around like, uh, mid-June. Okay. Um, hopefully I'll be there if I'm invited. If we're still friends. Yeah. If I didn't block her I ass by then I might ghost her. But anyway, so that's what what I'm planning is a live event on TikTok. We'll have a couple different people show up. Some family members. Mm. Uhhuh we're gonna do some hot takes. Um, what's a hot take? I love you. What is a hot take? A hot take is like if I say something, your, your immediate response. Ain't that what we doing now? No, this is not. Okay, hot takes are coming. Like hot cake. Hot taste. She hungry. Oh. Anyway, so today's episode was fun. Yes. Um, all you people that are out there listening, that, uh, used to be my friend. Sorry. Used to be my friend. I still got all my friends. I don't, and it's okay. And we know why. Um, but I am looking for new friends, as you can see instantly. At any point. Feel free, you know, hit us up on TikTok. Yes, Facebook, Instagram, follow us. Um, we look forward to you guys and this relationship expanding. Yes. So it's been fun today. Bye guys. See you next time.